We want to make sure that each person who engages in our community has a healthy self-image. Not narcissistic, but beautifully and wonderfully made (Ps. 139:14) by a loving Creator who made you intentionally with a unique identity and for an intimate relationship with Him through Jesus.
Everyone is welcome.
Everyone is accepted.
We learn from Jesus and His three closest disciples (Peter, James, and John) the importance of having a few special individuals that we share everything in life with. These are those chosen few who help make us who we are. Deep trust, empathy, and dependency are just a few characteristics of these relationships. These are the people that know us better than we know ourselves, and they are always there when needed. They are those few we spend our lives with. For many this would be a spouse, BFF, or maybe a child.
There are those chosen few who make us who we are.
This is the group of 6-12 we share our lives with. You know their names, their likes/dislikes; you can read on their face when something is wrong. They are the closest and deepest interconnected relationships we have. These relationships are often found in immediate family. However as we learn from Friends, Cheers, and The Big Bang Theory they aren’t always blood – just special. Weekly social activities, meals, trips, service events, whatever these are the people we do things with.
Closest and deepest.
Large groups range from 20 – 40 people. In large group relationships you often know everyone’s name and how they relate to the rest of the group, but not much more than that. These are often our work relationships. Think of co-workers, you probably know their name and their position but not often much more. While these relationships don’t have the depth of Interpersonal and Small Groups they do have enough resources to accomplish large tasks and projects. These types of groups and relationships are best suited to minister to the needs of the community because they have the resources to do significant things.
Often work relationships.
Public relationships are 100+. There are too many people to get anything done. People are moving in too many directions. There is very little depth to these relationships, often not knowing names but recognizing faces. Think of your team, like the SF Giants. You go down to AT&T Park, a season ticket holder, you see lots of familiar faces. You don’t know their names, where they came from or where they are going after the game, but that doesn’t matter. The simple fact that you are their together, with the same purpose (to see a Giants victory, root on the team, etc.) is a special kind of relationship that we all need. It’s the feeling of belonging. We all need to be part of something bigger than ourselves, sharing common purpose and vision with others. It’s exciting, and powerful to know you are not alone, unless you’re a Cubs fan.